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about three weeks ago, after seeing a video on why vegetarians should go vegan, i decided to fully commit to a vegan diet. i did more research and i knew that having the information i have now, i couldn't continue consuming animal products. still, even though in my heart i knew it was the right thing to do, i was in a bit of a dilemma. i didn't know how to communicate the changes i wanted to make to the people around me, to my parents, my family, and my friends.

knowing that quite a few people don't agree with veganism or have a general dislike for vegans and  having heard some of my family members make negative comments on the topic before didn't help. i was afraid of their reactions when telling them that i was going vegan. i was afraid of others suddenly seeing me in a different way, of them thinking i was just following a trend, and of being a burden when eating out or at someone else's place.

but i went for it anyway. and i'm so glad i did. here's what i learned:

if you're trying to please everyone around you, you'll never make the changes in your life you actually want to make. don't let the fear of people's judgement hold you back. i've definitely made that mistake before but i know i can't live my life constantly worrying about being criticised for what i'm doing. it's my life after all and i have the right to make my own decisions, whether others are going to agree with them or not.

assuming how others are going to respond to the changes you make is a bad idea. you can't predict their thoughts or reactions and most of the time the scenarios you imagine won't end up happening. turns out there was absolutely no reason for me to be afraid of telling people, my overthinking brain just made me believe there was one. so far i didn't really have to deal with any negative comments at all.

even though it's hard sometimes, you can't get frustrated if people don't agree with you. you'll have to accept opinions and mindsets that differ from yours. just like it wouldn't be fair if others suddenly saw me in a different way, it wouldn't be fair if i saw them in a different way either. not everyone is going to share my beliefs but no matter how frustrating it can be if someone doesn't understand where i'm coming from, i'll have to be okay with that. 

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  1. I don't think I could ever be a vegan because I was raised on meat. That is half of my culture and all of our foods contain a lot of meat and stuff like that. But the thing is that I understand the idea behind veganism. And I can respect you for being a vegan because it is none of my business. It is your life and you are my friend so I support you. You have to do what you want as you said and not worry so much about what people thinks. That can be hard sometimes but you are very courageous in doing what you want. I am one of the people that think nowadays people just go vegan because it is a trend and it makes me mad but then again that's how trends are created in the first place. Who I am to get mad at what somebody's else is doing. It doesn't really affect me so I'm learning not to be so mad and annoyed all the time.

    I wish you all the luck in your new adventure!
    lot of love,
    ayele
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    1. thank you for being so supportive and respectful ayele, it means a lot :) i'm glad to have you as a friend and i'll always respect your decisions and opinions too. i guess there are quite a few people who go vegan to follow a trend but like you said it's not our business and i think wasting energy on getting mad just isn't necessary. lots of love to you as well, thank you for reading x

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  2. I'm so glad that things turned out okay and that you didn't have to deal with any negativity. All of the three things you listed are so important, especially the first one - you can't live a life trying to please others or you will always be held back. Stepping out of that comfort zone can be hard but it's so worth it. I actually don't think there is anyone who doesn't agree with the 'factual' side of veganism, I think it's more about emotions and I think it's important to keep that in mind. I know it can be frustrating when people disagree and sometimes it really gets to me - but whenever I feel like that, I remind myself of how vegan the world has already become compared to let's say 10 years ago, it's honestly amazing. I love having all these vegan cafés and Sainsbury's is constantly widening their 'free from' range. Things never just happen overnight xx

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    1. thank you mira, it's going so much better than i thought it would :) and i couldn't agree more, it's important to just focus on what you want to do and go for it because if we always listen to what others think we never will. it's great that there are so many new vegan options all the time x

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  3. Good for you. I was vegetarian for 4 years and recently switched to demi-vegetarian to make life a bit easier. I was never able to go to a vegan diet, but I am very impressed with people who are. It causes you to be a lot more aware of what you're putting into your body and how food products are made. I hope your new diet goes well and you get to enjoy lots of good vegan food :)

    - Courtney
    courtneylthings.blogspot.com

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